The Could Haves and Should Haves

Did you know that when you talk about the "could haves" and "should haves" in your life, you are speaking disempowering words to yourself? And the words you speak matter.

For me, I had so many “could haves” and “should haves” surrounding my weight loss (release) journey.

I could and should have started the weight loss program many years before I did.

I could and should have listened to the people who were showing concern.

I definitely could and should have stopped replaying the bullying words that were said to me when I was young – something that lasted for 40 years!

The list could go on and on! Yet, it’s disempowering and only causes regret and stressful feelings.

And, to make it worse, the vicious cycle would start again with “you shouldn’t haves” when I ate foods that I knew could cause weight gain and I knew were unhealthy.

I’ll be honest, it was awful!

What if instead, you focus on what you did do that was good.

Once I made the decision to lose the weight, there was no reason to focus on the past (although, I didn’t know that at the time, and I let the negatives of my past control my future.)

Fortunately, I had a coach come into my life that was a catalyst for me and helped me realize how I had held on to the “could haves” and “should haves.”

What about you?

What “could haves” and “should haves” are you holding onto that are keeping you from having the life you dream of?

What was or is holding you back from doing what you "could" or "should" have done?

As you think about this, what if you make a commitment to step into your strengths and talents and use them the next time you are given an opportunity instead of having the regret of "could have" or "should have."
 

Let me know your "could haves" and "should haves" you have learned from and how you have overcome and used it to grow you and your business.

If you are struggling with the “could haves” and “should haves” in your life and would like someone to walk beside you and be a catalyst for you, contact me and let's have a discovery session to see how coaching can serve you.